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I’d love more information about being pregnant and doing storytime including adaptations, odd situations and more.
Jennie (@kidsilkhaze) says: The nice thing about pregnancy, is the physical limitations come on gradually, so you can learn what you can and can’t do with enough time to plan around it. My big modification was just bending my knees and raising my arms instead of actually jumping. Towards the end, I made sure everything was in easy reach, because getting in and out of my chair could be a production.
The other nice thing is that many of the adults in a storytime have recently been pregnant themselves, or deal with pregnant people, so they’re very understanding. (Relatedly, they’re also the most polite. My storytime moms were the LAST people to ask me if I was expecting. Even though I was 7.5 months along and looked like I had a beach ball under my shirt. They never patted my belly or asked horrible questions.)
Before I get into my advice, congratulations! I hope you have a happy, healthy pregnancy. OK, here we go!
1) Do what you think you can handle. People will understand, most of them being moms themselves. I had to change our opening routine entirely as for years it had been very high-energy with lots of movement and I had to change it to something much more slow-paced. It was an adjustment for the kids, but a needed one. And even after I had the baby and came back to work after maternity leave, I appreciated the slower pace since I was still exhausted from sleep deprivation. If you are having a bad time with morning sickness (I once threw up moments before opening the doors for storytime!), ask your doctor about prescription or other remedies. Remember that it gets harder to breath as you get further along so you will have to be conscious of that when reading. I also had some vision difficulties while pregnant so I had to wear my glasses more
2) Prepare a scaled-back SRP. Again, you do what you have to do. My due date with my daughter was June 12th and our SRP was scheduled to start June 9th of that year. I was also the only children’s librarian. Luckily with pregnancy, you know you will need some kind of leave, so you can plan further ahead. My paraprofessional staff really stepped up and ran a decent SRP for me. We didn’t shatter any registration records or anything but there was a SRP. It was a smaller town than yours, so most people knew I would be off and there weren’t a lot of questions. But even in a big town, your regulars will know that you are on maternity leave. Remember your due date is just an educated guess! Most first time babies arrive within the week after the due date, but plenty come earlier too. You also may wind up on bed rest, so my advice is to plan far ahead and make sure multiple people know how everything is supposed to go. You may wish to scale back on programming plans for the rest of your pregnancy as well.
3) It’s best to decide now how much information you want to give out and practice making polite responses to questions that are intrusive. While pregnant, I was asked everything from were you planning children? were you on birth control? what preschool are you planning to send her to? Is your husband disappointed that the baby is not a boy? Are you planning to breast feed? After I was back from maternity leave the questions were still there: Have you given up on breastfeeding yet? etc.
4) I advise everyone to not make a firm decision about being a stay at home mom at first. You just don’t know how you’ll feel about it for sure. I know several moms who quit their jobs and then discovered that being a stay at home mom wasn’t the lifestyle for them. It can be grueling being home all day with a baby and can be an isolating choice. On the other hand, I know lots of happy SAHMs too. You can always resign later if that’s your choice. Being a full-time working mom is the right choice for me and my family, even though it’s not always easy.
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When you do preschool storytime, I wanted to ask how you go over rules with your kiddos. Do you have a puppet that tells the rules? Do you just tell the kids? My preschoolers are pretty well behaved, but keeping hands to ourselves is sometimes an issue, as well as having side conversations. The only other issue is kids who will lean their chairs backwards, which is an issue because then they fall and hurt themselves. I don’t want to be too harsh, but I wonder if there’s a better way to gently remind the kids of how we behave other than just saying “How do we behave during storytime? We keep our hands to ourselves and take turns talking.” I know some folks use puppets and while I enjoy hosting puppeteers, it’s not an area I feel comfortable exploring myself. Part of this has to do with the fact that my predecessor used a monkey puppet in lots of her programs–while the kids enjoyed it, she left a huge legacy that’s been hard to fill, and there’s been some sadness over the fact that I am not her. I want to do things in a ways that are different from what she did to show that while I’m doing the same job she did, I sometimes like to do things differently.
Brooke (@berasche) says:
For saying the rules, I would recommend doing what you’re comfortable with. If you feel awkward using a puppet then kids will notice. I personally don’t ever use puppets. My predecessor did, but it’s not something I’m good at or enjoy- so i just don’t bother. Use your strengths! Soon the parents and children will forget about your predecessor’s style because they’ll love your storytimes.
Since you’re dealing with preschoolers I would address them directly. Make it positive, but also get your point across. Something such as, “My name is Miss Liz and this is preschool storytime! I’m so excited to see you guys and we’re going to have a wonderful time. To have as much fun as possible today I need everyone to sit criss-cross applesauce and keep our hands in our laps.” Change the wording to fit your message and say it at the beginning of every storytime.
As for the chair situation, I would just make them all sit on the floor. I had issues with this too because chairs had always been used before I came. I think children are more engaged on the floor when they don’t have one more thing competing for their attention. I also have my parents sit on the floor. I’ve found that they are less likely to talk to other parents if they have to sit on the floor next to their kid. I keep a chair or two in the very back for the elderly and pregnant moms, but once you set the standard that everyone sits on the floor people will stop asking what happened to the chairs. Good luck!
Julie (@himissjulie) says:
Wow, there are a lot of things going on in this question. I see two issues: getting kids to follow storytime rules, and dealing with filling the shoes of a long term, beloved librarian.
First, I’m wondering why your kids are in chairs at all during storytime. A lot of storytime issues can be cleared up by what is considered “classroom” management. If your environment is set up to minimize chances for distraction and acting out, behavior will naturally be less disruptive. Getting rid of chairs will mean the kids have one less prop that they can mess around with during storytime.
Once the room and the kids are arranged in such a way that temptation is lessened, take a look at how your storytime is structured. Make sure there is the absolute minimum of downtime. Don’t give the kids a chance to get bored. And don’t really give them a chance to talk, either. That sounds awful, doesn’t it? Let me explain– while you want children to participate in storytime, through action or call and response, you don’t really want to open up the opportunity for rambling preschool monologues. This will stop your storytime dead in its tracks and all the other kids will start acting out because they don’t care about Johnny’s epic story about whatever. If a kid starts in, say gently, “Let’s talk about that after storytime, okay, Susie?” and then plow right on with what you were doing.
Also, if you’re not comfortable using puppets, that’s going to come through. So chuck that puppet, until the time comes when you’re really excited to use a puppet in an awesome way, rather than using it as a “bad cop” to your good cop. Make sure you are as passionate as possible about every storytime you present. If you are excited, energized, and having fun, the kids will follow you. Keep a beloved ritual or two if you must, but other than that, do storytime your way. Eventually the kids will come to love you just as much if not more than they loved the previous librarian. Other kids might never come around, but eventually they will age out and you won’t have to worry about it. In a couple of years, the kids you have will hold you first in their heart. So just be patient.
If, after these changes, you still have issues with a child or children, eventually you are going to have to talk to a parent and let him or her know that little Timmy is disrupting the program for others, and they need to help you make it better.
Kiera (@libraryvoice) says:
For my preschool storytimes, I generally try to 1) use subtle means (diverting attention elsewhere, good stretchy rhymes, etc.) to lead children “naturally” into good behaviors and when that fails 2) be firm but kind about the storytime rules. I almost never use puppets.
Before reading a story, I always say the following “Does everyone have their Listening Ears on (tug earlobes gently)? We need our listening ears so we can hear all the exciting, funny stories today. What about our Storytime Eyes (make eyes super wide and point to them)? We need our Storytime Eyes so that we can see all of the beautiful illustrations. And what about our Talking Lips? Let’s all zip-zip-zip (pretend to zip or lock lips with a key) our talking lips. If we see something or hear something we like, we can talk about it AFTER the story ends. Okay? Everyone ready?!”
I make sure to choose a variety of books to have on hand, depending on the mood of the crowd that day. I am flexible so that if I notice a lot of them getting wiggly, I can adapt and add in extra stretches, songs, movement activities, etc.
If a child begins doing something clearly disruptive or infringes on the personal space of another child, I will stop what I’m doing (yes- even if in the middle of a song or story) and address the child directly. For example: “Henry. I notice that you have been licking Avery on the cheek. We know that licking or touching another person during storytime is not okay. We know that during storytime we keep our hands to ourselves. Are you going to be able to keep your hands to yourself, Henry?” (And yes- the licking example is from an actual storytime.) If Henry does it again, I will stop what I’m doing and this time walk over to him and have a very quick conversation. I sometimes very, very gently place a hand on a shoulder (only if you know the child well) while I’m talking. I will say something like “Henry, I see we have a problem today. Remember before when I asked you if you could keep your hands to yourself? I just saw you lick Avery again. I know that you can do better. I am going to let you come back into the storytime circle and try again. But if I have to stop again today I will walk you out to the Children’s Library and you will have to sit with your grown-up for the rest of the storytime. Do you understand? Okay, let’s try again.”
Usually that works. Kids are eager to please and often they do need a few gentle reminders.
Hope that helps!
Leona (@layleevj) says:
Liz, I don’t specifically go over storytime rules with the kids. I like to say my storytimes come with a side of chaos so a certain amount kids-messing-around does happen. Usually a frown and headshake in the offenders direction will get them to stop, and if it is really disruptive I will try a “it’s time to be quiet now” or “stop trying to strangle your friend.” I use carpet squares so luckily don’t have chair tipping issues. I’ve also found fingerplays/rhymes to be a great way to bring attention back to me and get kids involved again. Open, Shut Them and any rhyme that involves a surprise clap, like Ten Little Sausages, work well for me. Hope this helps!
Lisa (@lmulvenna) says:
I agree with what the other have said so far. Two other things to think about are:
1. You are not your predecessor. It is sometimes better to do your own thing, rather than be compared to her. If you don’t do puppets well, which it sounds like something that she did, highlight your strong points. Do you sing, do fingerplays, play with scarves, etc.? At our library, both of us who do story times have different styles and this works because we each handle different ages. The kids are always sad when they bump up a level and miss out on something fun, such as bubbles, but then they find the cool stuff that they now get to do, such as dancing.
2. How are you comfortable explaining the rules? We use pictures for some of our groups made with Boardmaker. Concentrate on the top things that you want to convey as these are kids and this is work for them. I try to highlight 3 things (but no more than 5 or 6) for them to practice, depending on the group. Examples include listening with our ears, hands to ourselves, and sitting on the floor. Plus, there are tools that you can use as the leader without them being rules. An example of this is saying “We’re all going to sit down now on the floor” while using your hands to gesture down and they can follow your example. Personally, I would get rid of the chairs too for the story portion of the program or put them along the outside of the room for parents/caregivers.
#1: Rules of the Room
First, I borrowed an idea from Miss Mary Liberry that she called described in an August blog post Storytime Norms: Now With Picture Cues. This was an excellent way to introduce “rules of conduct” as a concept. The first day, we discussed what rules mean, and why they are important. I made sure to have the sign on hand every week so that if kids were acting up, I could just say, “Matilda, what does this mean?” Each week we would go over the rules at the beginning of storytime, and do silly motions to go along with them. Storytime Rules
#2 Always Have a Wingman (or in this case Wing-librarian)
Whenever possible, I ask a co-worker to join us in for storytime. When things are running smoothly, she models storytime behavior, and participates in activities. But when things get out of hand, she can help put out fires: she can be a parent-fetcher when a child needs to leave the storytime room and/or when a child’s behavior is becoming disruptive. This year, we are very lucky to have an awesome intern, Ms Holly. One of her priorities is to learn the ropes of running a storytime. She has been a huge help, and has been a great “2nd adult” in the room. When she isn’t available the lovely Ms. Shelley has filled in.
#3 My New Preschool Storytime FAQ
Finally, I wanted to communicate to parents that preschool storytime is a major transition for their children. This means that even if their child is excited about the prospect of preschool storytime, the adjustment can be difficult.
In preparation for the new session, I rewrote the handout I give to parents on the first day. My goal is let them know that I don’t expect perfection. I also want to communicate that, even though they aren’t required to be in the room, they’re not dropping their child off at daycare. I wanted to address the issues that are particular to library storytimes for this age group.
Link to her full post on this topic here.
Preschool is a wonderful time. The children are so smart, imaginative, and ready for fun. Again there’s no way sure-fire way to make sure every storytime run smoothly. Chaos is a given. It keeps me on my toes. Everyday is a new opportunity to share my love of reading, singing, and silly dancing with a group of delight little rascals.
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